These patterns don't look like freeze at first glance. They look like being busy, being helpful, being 'fine'.
But underneath, they're running the show, draining your energy, hijacking your focus & keeping your visibility locked behind old stories.
Your not avoiding success.
You're surviving it.
I help you recognise the hidden patterns, the heroine, the chameleon, the perfectionist, that keep you ghosting your own wants, needs and goals. Showing up for everyone but yourself.
Together we build trust in your nervous system so visibility stops feeling like a threat and starts feeling like your right.
I definitely didn't get here overnight though.
For the majority of my life I was the strong one. The dependable one. The capable one.
Holding it all together, work, family and everyone else's stuff, while hiding the storm that brewed underneath.
I didn't know I was anxious.
I didn't know I was stuck in freeze.
I thought I was disorganised. Unfocused. Inconsistent.
Trying to run a business from this state, with a nervous system that thinks every move forwards is a threat, is like speeding into a wall.
I tried everything.
Books, courses, coaching, strategies, healing.
It all had it's place.
It all helped.
But nothing stuck.
Nothing really shifted until I stopped trying to fix myself and I started listening to what my body was trying to say.
The work I do now was born from that.
From the slow, gritty journey back to self trust. To real safety. To steady visibility.
To not just knowing what I wanted, but to actually moving towards it.
I didn't start to find my own success by pushing harder or by pretending I had it all together.
I didn't start to build my brand by performing or fitting myself into someone else's idea of what I should be doing.
I definitely didn't start getting myself visible by ignoring what was happening in my body.
I built this by slowing down.
By getting honest with the patterns that were running the show.
I rewired my relationship with visibility, leadership and success from the inside out.
I started with nervous system safety, not strategy ( I couldn't stick to a strategy before).
I started with presence, not performance.
And I worked with the real reason I kept ghosting my own success, freeze.
That's what makes this work different.
It's not about becoming someone else.
It's about finally becoming safe being you.
It doesn't matter if no one else believes in you.
I know how hard that can feel when life's trained you to doubt your own instincts.
When every time you've tried to move forwards, somethings pulled you back.
When you've learned to survive by staying invisible, even though your whole being is screaming to be seen.
If you listen, you know you're not confused.
You aren't lacking clarity.
You aren't even procrastinating.
You've been stuck in functional freeze and it's done one hell of a job at protecting you.
Until now.
Because the moment you start believing in your own timing, your own wisdom, your own voice,
You stop ghosting your dreams.
You stop shape shifting to stay safe.
You start leading from the inside out.
And I'm here to walk beside you as you do.
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Here are a few fun facts…
Here's a few things you probably wouldn't guess if you're new here.
I have ADHD & a super human ability to open 42 tabs in my brain (& browser).
I have a current email count in my inbox of 42ooo (there's a pattern there).
I talk to my guides, pull cards & I still forget where I put things.
My favourite regulation tool is dancing, (you will only see this when you're in my close circle).
I can spot a survival pattern quicker than I can match socks.
I absolutely talk to myself when I'm working something through & sometimes she answers back.
I'm obsessed with pineapple & mushrooms (not together).
If you're looking for someone in a business suit you're looking in the wrong place.
Hayley is a visibility mentor, coach & intuitive pattern disruptor, with over 30 years of experience in health, social care & education.
She is trained in psychology, trauma, childhood & youth development, coaching, emotional intelligence, spiritual development, EFT & TFT & Seichem, Isis & Sekhmet reiki. But it's her lived experience, deep intuition & real world wisdom that set her apart.
She works specifically with midlife women, the coaches, the healers, the under cover leaders, who've been stuck in survival patterns & keep ghosting their own goals.
Her work is about bringing them home to consistency, nervous system safety, & truth-led visibility.
Through her signature framework & trauma informed approach, Hayley helps women stop hiding, start leading & finally show up for themselves.