When visibility feels like exposure
WHEN VISIBILITY FEELS LIKE EXPOSURE
Visibility, empowering and confidence boosting, as well as having huge benefits to your business. But it doesn't feel like that for everyone does it?
For many, the very thought of visibility can induce feelings that are less like power and more like panic.
I know, because I still haven't hit the point where visibility, talking about my work online. and going live. is easy, however, I do feel a little flutter of excitement every time I do it.
Countless people have said, just do it. bite the bullet, so to speak. Just show up. just go live. just be yourself.
But the reality wasn't, isn't that simple, but it was especially hard at the start. It's not that I didn't want to be seen, of course I did, I do. I want my work out there, I want clients, I want connection. Yet every time I tried to step forward, the pull backwards increased it's grip, the self-doubts got stronger while the inner critic was living it's best life inside my head.
Now just in this past few years building my business, I can honestly (and no longer with shame) say I've ghosted my own goals more times than I can count.
I've poured money into courses and strategies, hoping with each one. that once I'd completed it I'd finally have the missing piece.
I've spent hours rebranding instead of showing up.
I've wasted time writing captions that got deleted over and over again, because they felt too risky.
I've spent hours and hours creating just one, 60 second video, only to delete that too because it wasn't good enough, I didn't look professional enough, the house was a mess, you name it , the excuse was there.
And every time I failed at showing up, the frustration kicked in a little stronger, a little louder, "Why can't I just bloody do it?
The truth about visibility
Now a days I don't pretend that visibility is easy, Some days it still feels a little bit too vulnerable. But instead of running from it, I'm meeting myself in it. Sometimes it's just reminding myself that I'm allowed to take up space. Sometimes it's breathing through the 'ugh' then hitting post or go live anyway. It's not about being fearless. It's about being honest with yourself, and then showing up in a way your body can actually manage.
Want more than a coffee chat?
If visibility has you running for the hills instead of standing in your power, you're not alone.
That's why this week I'm running a mini training in my group: Visibility feels like exposure. Where I'll be breaking down 3 types of visibility: Visibility in your content, Visibility in your offers and Visibility in your leadership, there'll be real time discussions as well as practical steps that you can action straight away.
The training will take place in my FB group on Thursday 18th September at 7pm BST.
Come and join us if you're done disappearing on yourself, and you want visibility to feel doable, not terrifying.
Join the group here- https://www.facebook.com/groups/306450035040813/
Can't wait to see you there.
Hayley x
