Hold the clients, I'm busy doing busy work

Hold the clients, I'm busy doing busy work

I'm an expert at looking super productive while staying completely stuck. If you're a midlife coach or healer, you might understand that feeling.

You want clients. You want to get paid. You say you're showing up for your business, but somehow, the day gets swallowed up by fiddling in canva, rewriting your niche statement, faffing in Wix trying to create a website, or rebranding for the tenth time. It looks like you're working hard. It might look like you're making progress. But deep down you're avoiding the very thing you started your business for: showing up, being visible & calling in your ideal clients.

It's not you being lazy, & you don't lack ambition.

It just might be functional freeze, fear & shame, living in the body, disguised in busyness.

For me fear lived in my belly. A tightness. a band that kept me pulled in tight & unable to move, when I wanted to move the most. My brain would be telling me all the things I needed to do, post, engage, share, & I really wanted to do it all.

But no matter how much I wanted to do it, when it came to the crunch, I'd distract myself. I'd get knee deep in busy work, you know the sort I mean, the creating, the perfecting, the changing, the rewriting. Anything at all, but the thing I wanted to do most... show up.

Maybe the worst part was that with every change, I'd get a little spark of excitement, like that fresh start feeling. It made me feel like I was making progress.

It took me along time to acknowledge that I wasn't building a business. I was just keeping myself busy.

Deep down it felt easier & safer to 'keep moving' than to just stop & face the freeze.

How I broke the cycle

It was only when I realised this, I could see the pattern, but it was a pretty tough realisation for me. I noticed that every time I made progress, had enquiries about my programme, conversations with potential clients, that's when it kicked in hardest.

I'd had coaches in the past to help me solve this, but their way could only take me so far. I knew I had to do this my way. So I embodied whole heartedly the modalities I've learnt, Emotional intelligence coaching, EFT/TFT, intuitive movement, seichem reiki & breathwork.

Somehow, through all the chaos, my own Pattern Disruption & Belief Mapping method was born.

Belief mapping helped me see the hidden stories & patterns that shaped not only my choices in the moment, but my whole life. Why the perfectionist part of me wanted that perfect offer. Why the heroine part insisted on helping everyone else but never myself. Why the ghost showed up to pull me away from my goals just as everything began to move.

Intuitive movement & seichem reiki taught me time to go inwards, to really listen, to relax & trust myself are just as important as the action taking steps.

EFT & TFT tapping along with breathwork, calmed my nervous system enough for me to sit with the fear, instead of running from it. My belly's tightness would soften & I could take the next small step.

Why this matters for you

Because the fear & the shame that keep you frozen in busy work isn't just going to disappear.

That voice that tells you "you're not ready", & keeps you spinning in self-doubt is only going to get louder.

It sounds harsh, because that's the reality.

It's taken me over 4 years of this cycle in my business to get to this point, & I do not want that for you.

You've got a message, a purpose & a voice that needs to be heard by your people. They don't need you to be perfect. They just want you to be real. The real you, that knows her worth, who can hold her own fear. The you who dares to disrupt the patterns that are keeping her stuck.

Try it for yourself

One of the tools that helped me calm the fear living in my body & break the cycle of 'the busy work' is EFT tapping.

It gave me a way to release the fear enough to take a real step forward, rather than spinning in the doing.

Here's a short tapping video you can use whenever you notice yourself slipping into busy work instead of client work.

Enjoy the tapping,

Speak soon.

Hayley x

PS: If you're spending time dwelling on how inconsistent you are, then why not book a free clarity call with me, you'll probably be surprised at how consistent you really are, it's just channelled into the places that aren't serving your purpose any more.

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