Creating Chaos from Clarity: When Knowing What You Want feels Like A Problem

You finally have clarity. You know what you want to do, who you want to serve and how you want to show up. The fog has lifted, the confusion has cleared.....

And now?

Errr.....Cue the overthinking, the self-doubt and the existential spiral.

Suddenly, that beautiful, hard earned clarity that you had yesterday, feels like a fucking problem.

Your brain, that really should be rooting for you, has decided that now is the perfect time to question everything:

"But what if I’m wrong?"

"What if I can’t do that?"

"What if I’m not spiritual enough?"

"What if people don’t like it?"

"What if I wake up tomorrow and I realise I’ve made a mistake?"

Just like that, your clarity has turned into chaos!

Why the hell does this happen?

Because quite simply, clarity isn’t always comforting. Clarity demands action. It says ‘hey, you see the path, now, its time to move!’ And for your brain, wow, its spent years mastering the art of over thinking, perfectionism and procrastination, so just stop, that clarity’s just terrifying!

When you’re unclear, you can hide in indecision. You can keep ‘figuring things out’... forever.

But when you know, when your truth is staring you in the face, you either have to move forward or admit the painful truth, that its fear that’s holding you back.

Lets be totally honest, fear is a drama queen, and it thrives on keeping you in chaos!

How has this shown up for me?

Oh believe me when I say, I know this game very well.

I’ve had clarity on what I wanted to do for years. I always knew my work was rooted in spiritual coaching. I knew right off the bat I wanted my work to dive deep into emotions (especially fear, guilt & shame) and I knew I wanted it to involve self-worth. I also knew I wanted it to be fun.

But instead of trusting that, I spent my time, far too much of it, going round and around in circles. Branching off here as I changed my niche, branching off there as I re-evaluated my messaging, branching off again as I questioned who I was meant to serve.

My poor coach, must have wanted to drop kick me from a great height many times, as she’d smile through gritted teeth for the 4th time in as many weeks, as she questioned my reasons behind yet another shift.

Did I grow and evolve? Of course I did.

But the core of what I wanted to do was there all along. I just didn’t trust myself enough to fully own it, & because I wasn't sure how to bring the elements all together.

The irony is, that even as I sat down to write this blog today, the same thoughts came creeping in. Maybe I should write about something else!

"Maybe this is just a you thing and no-one else will get it"!

"Pssst, maybe you just aren’t good enough"!

Honestly, I laughed out loud. The irony in that very moment was unreal and it damn well sealed the deal!

This time, instead of letting those thoughts send me into another chaos spiral, I called them out for what they were, just my brain trying to keep me safe.

And as you see, I wrote the damn blog anyway.

What Chaos from Clarity Looks Like

Second guessing the decision you were so sure about yesterday.

Feeling overwhelmed by al the decisions and steps ahead. (nah, lets just scroll social media instead).

Waiting for the ‘perfect moment’ to start. Spoiler alert! It doesn’t exist.

Overcomplicating things so much that you’ve got no idea where to start. (Light bulb moment! I’ll create a new website and devise my 47 step plan).

Telling yourself you need ‘more’ clarity, because what you’ve got just isn’t enough to start. When really all you need is to Trust yourself.

Sound familiar?

Yeah, its actually a thing.

How To Stop The Chaos & Trust Yourself

Recognise that doubt doesn’t mean you’re wrong!

1. Your brain thinks its keeping you safe. Its not trying to ruin your life (even though it feels like it). Self doubt is just your nervous system reacting to change. The trick here is not to let the indecision make the decision for you.

2. Stop waiting for absolute certainty. You will never feel 100% ready, (yep, I’m saying it). Clarity doesn’t mean there’s no fear. It means you have enough of your own truth to start. Action will build your confidence, not the other way round.

3. Simplify your next step. Don’t try getting into the whole plan. Just your next step. What’s the tiniest, most doable action you can take TODAY? Do that!

4. Use tapping to shut down the spiral. Your nervous system is the problem. If your brain is in chaos mode, your body is holding onto stress too. That’s why I love EFT and TFT tapping. It gets your nervous system to calm the hell down so you can think straight.

Do you want to try it out?

I’ve created a tapping video to get you out of overthinking and into self trust.

Did you tap along?

Final thought:

Clarity isn’t the problem. Self-trust is.

If your sitting there feeling like the proverbial deer caught in the headlights, its not because you don’t have clarity. Its because deep down, you just don’t fully trust yourself to be able to follow it through.

The truth you need to hear is that you don’t need more thinking, planning or waiting & searching for signs. You need action. Imperfect, Messy, I’m-totally-freaking-out-but-I’m-doing-it-anyway, kind of action.

Your clarity is a gift. the only thing that’s creating chaos is your fear of trusting it.

So take a deep breath. press play on the video and tap on it, & then.......

Take that next bloody step.

You’ve so got this.

Clarity is a gift, so if you want some some personalised support, book a free clarity call with me today.

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For now,

Big hugs,

Hayley x